Wrong is the new Right

And on holding back…

Only recently I made this very crucial observation. I started noticing how we (all of us included) hold back from good things in life just because we do not trust life at all. And that is more than just one topic to write about but I want to focus on the mere fact how and why we hold back.

By holding back I mean emotionally and physically too. We hold back on our love and affection from people because we are scared that we don’t get it back or even worst, that we might get hurt. And once you notice it, it becomes illogical. And in a moment I will tell you why…

But also, I want to talk about holding back on the physical level. What I mean by it…holding back from taking action. Waiting for better times to start my own business which I have been wanting for so long is just one of the examples….another one could be waiting for too long to go back into the dating market, start chatting with people online and offline, putting myself out there.

At first, it made me sad because I started thinking, I cannot change people or I cannot make them do something that they cannot or do not want to do but when it becomes painfully clear to me that they are holding themselves from the very same think they really really want….. it makes me really upset. Why do we do that to ourselves? Why cannot we understand better that the way is forward not backwards?

I had my recent example with a guy I was seeing… I knew this person was interested in me, I knew he liked me a lot, I knew he really wanted to have a loving relationship…. He just could not let himself go for it. And he had some really good and logical reasons for that. And maybe for the first time in my life I saw it clearly as a fresh born baby. Logic is not getting us what we want. Hardly ever. Logic has brought us here where we already are but will not allow us to go further or to get what we want beyond that.

I remember having read the same idea in the Conversations with God books. It said something around the lines that to find God you need to be illogical. You need to allow yourself to be wrong. To consider that what I see as wrong might be right. And it totally makes sense, doesn`t it? Just think about that for a moment. If you continue doing more of the same what you have been doing for your whole life will you get something different than what you are already getting? No!!!! We keep talking about limiting beliefs, about our patterns but when it comes to questioning the status quo we get scared and we do not want to change our thinking. It feels wrong.

But this is the answer as well. The wrong is the new right. Without theorizing too much, I know you know what I mean by that. You KNOW. And I know that you know. I trust your intuition as much as I trust my own. SO here is another thought. I`d like you to try out something today…..yes, your guess was right….I want you to do something today you think is not right to do but which you want to do. Go ahead, get the experience and let me know how it went. I am impatiently waiting to hear your stories, your completely wrong stories which turned juts right! My Love to you…